Cuttyhunk, MA

September 13-14

Ah.  A quick and easy post.  Even more of a reason to love this adorable little island!  We had a smooth sail from Martha’s Vineyard, catching a few zzz’s as well as a False Albacore.  We did schoolwork and had our typical lunch underway: peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

 

 

 

We pulled into Cuttyhunk feeling like old pros.  I remembered coming into Cuttyhunk last year on our two-week “trial” sailing trip.  It was only the second port we visited last year on our chartered (rented) 42’ Jeanneau.  I remember standing on the bow in a near panic as we snaked through the narrow channel to the harbor.  I expected to run aground at any moment and was relieved for exactly three seconds when we finally pulled into the harbor.  It was then that we looked at the mooring field, which was completely full.  The boats seemed to be packed as tightly together as the parking lot of the Garden State Plaza on the night before Christmas.  It was a windy day and I couldn’t fathom how we would maneuver this unfamiliar boat in and between all those boats and somehow grab the mooring we had reserved on the first try.  We managed just fine, but I thought about how different I felt this time.

one of the awful sights that we cruisers have to put up with: cute boats in the glow of evening sun..

We glided through the channel and I stood on the bow, looking out for shallow water, but I wasn’t nervous at all.  I felt confident as we pulled into the mooring field and picked up our mooring.  Since it is after Labor Day, we had the luxury of being picky about our mooring choice.  We didn’t like our position, so we dropped that mooring and chose another one.  No biggie.  Very cool.

lunchtime!

We jumped into the dinghy and went into “town”.  Chris went in by paddleboard.  Hope you aren’t settling into your morning coffee, because by the time I start describing the town, I’ll almost be done.  In fact, there is no town.  There is a dock, with a fish fileting table right at the head of it.  There is always a fisherman there cutting up the day’s catch.  The seagulls stay close by and a loud clatter accompanied by a chaotic flutter of wings tells you that a fishhead or a tail was just tossed in the water.  That’s pretty much the most exciting thing that happens here.

A walk past the public bathrooms brings you to “the intersection”.  There is a store there, but it was closed.  I remember from last year that it is a small gift shop.  We made a right and took a long walk past the weathered homes up to a point with a beautiful view of the harbor.  There are many homes here, but only 52 year round residents.  Cuttyhunk is part of the Elizabeth Islands, which lie just northwest of Martha’s Vineyard.  The population swells during the summer to 400.  The rest of the Elizabeth Islands are privately owned by the Forbes family.  Though we didn’t visit this year (it was also closed), there is a quaint little Historical Society Museum near the school.  If you ever visit Cuttyhunk, be sure to check it out.

On the way back, we stopped at the adorable little one-room schoolhouse.  The door was open even though it was about 1530.  I poked my head in and the schoolteacher welcomed us in to check it out.  The kids loved meeting the teacher and looking around the classroom.  I tried not to point out that I have more students than she does.  There are currently two students at the Cuttyhunk Public School: a second grader and a third grader.  She had the room set up beautifully, with lots of books, bright posters, a fishtank, a piano, lots of maps, and art projects on every surface.  It was a lovely school and it was great to hear about what teaching is like on this small island.

The kids point out where we have been on our trip.

Raw Bar Boat!

The kids played on the playground for a bit, and next thing we knew, it was time to get back home to start dinner.  We stopped by the dock and asked the Raw Bar Boat to stop by Patronus on their next trip.  This is seriously cool.  A boat drives out and serves up seafood directly into your cockpit.  We had shrimp cocktail and clam chowder up on deck while watching a beautiful sunset.

happy girl

It was a lovely night, and the next morning, we left for Newport.  Wait.  What?  Didn’t we already go there seventeen times this summer?  Well, we’re going again.  And I’m going to write about it again.  So go make another cup of coffee:..

Porter looking so cute putting his lifejacket on

feet dangling from the boom at sunset

Chris watching the sunset………

….and then ducking down and popping back up so he can watch it again.

hard to see but seals lying on rocks just hidden by the water.

 

 

Response to Organizational Therapy: Walking with Purpose!

OK, I know many of you are thinking – how could you let Erica Blog about your Mess!  Even down to the junk drawer that contained coupons, fish food and water bottles.  I know Erica wrote her blog and helped me from under my mess – out of love – for me and my family.  And for goodness sake, if you could have only seen the sheer JOY in her whole being while walking intently with purpose during the organizing …..you would have let her do it too!  How could I not give her that pleasure – and in turn the results of the exercise has given me great pleasure!    Heck, isn’t that what friends are for?

Friends Walking Intently with Purpose!

Now we are (or should I say “I” am) not a Hoarder, like you see on the cable networks, but it’s more like having a collection of clutter without signs of reversing.  Just keeping things for reasons – that after you discuss them OUT LOUD with someone – seem ridiculous!

“Everything that you will someday live, in terms of life experience — and by some day, we mean as soon as right now, tomorrow, the next day, or someday — anything that you will someday live, you have first imagined.  Because nothing will manifest in your experience without the imagination process happening first”.   — Abraham Hicks Publications

Erica’s ability to keep her heart open and create moments of true intent is amazing.  I have been meaning to do this type of Purge for over a year, and was aware it needed to be done for over 7 years.  What took so long, now that is a loaded question, you name it I had an excuse:

  • I had small children
  • my husband travels a lot during the year
  • I had no time to spare
  • I (over) volunteered at the kids schools and sports activities
  • I would rather workout
  • I was scared to face the crippling inability to get out from under
  • what if I needed something that I got rid of

Then here comes Erica and in a matter of a few days my house has unloaded about half its weight in stuff.  That is right just STUFF – stuff I did not need and do not miss.  Now in the 15 years we have been married my husband David (who came here from New Zealand) occasionally jests that – “All I came to this country with was a duffle bag and a bike and now look at all this STUFF”.  There is that word again, stuff.

Stuff is defined as [stuhf] noun: material of some unspecified kind.  Unspecified kind…that is exactly right.  Unspecified.  This word does not belong if you are to walk intently with purpose. ‘Unspecified’ does not work in Erica’s world of organization.  Everything has a specific purpose and a specific PLACE!  Which in my case – this stuff kept me walking around in circles for years because ‘stuff’ does not have a specific place to go!  Erica came to my rescue by teaching me about creating specific intentions and in the case of purging, cleaning and organizing – keeping only the things that bring joy and beauty to your life.  This lesson she has taught us in such a short time!  I am in awe and am extremely grateful!

The happy uncluttered couple!

THE THINGS I NOTICED DURING

During her unending commitment to get us out from under I noticed Erica’s amazing conviction and her ability to give her undivided attention to the task.   She was One on One with me with no other distraction (even though I may have been distracted).  This is how Erica gave of herself to me especially during the clothes portion of the house purge.  I ask, when was the last time you had someone sit with you for over 4 hours, giving you their undivided attention; no music, no television, no games, just the two of you in a room breaking down barriers, making connections and living in your truth.

Erica gave Undivided Attention with a Smile!

She gave calm, considerate intentions to help me peel away layers formed by years of neglecting my own desires and self worth.   She helped rediscover the person I had within simply by asking me which clothes made me feel gorgeous!  I told her my closet would be empty!  But she urged me to only keep the clothes and ONLY shop for clothes that made me feel Fabulous and Gorgeous!   And to not keep any other kind in the house.  Now that this is the new mind set….I actually went clothes shopping for myself, by myself!  (if you knew me, you would know how much I hate shopping!  All my clothes are hand me downs from my sisters or gifts from people) But with this new mindset I actually enjoyed the experience and found a great outfit that made me feel young, happy and Fabulous!

The closet now with only Fabulous clothes in it!

I cannot explain the emotion evoked in those few hours spent one on one with Erica, let alone the days they have shared with us during the first portion of their year long journey.   Just having this opportunity to spend many moments with Chris and Erica in the first 2 months of their trip makes us one lucky couple… and making those moments count is priceless.  THANK YOU!

 RESULTS

Well, the FREEDOM from the mental burden of holding onto unused, retired, old, outdated things is remarkably amazing.  The burden has been lifted.  The reasons for holding onto to these things, GONE!  My brain has more room because I no longer have to think about this stuff.  I am not pressuring my consciousness about WHEN am I going to get rid of this stuff, it is already GONE!   I no longer:

  • waste time obsessing about the amount of stuff
  • waste time worrying about when to get rid of it
  • waste time planning where to put it
  • waste time figuring out a plan to get rid of it
  • waste time wondering when I am going to use this stuff again
  • waste time thinking how much better my house would be without the stuff

IT’s GONE!   DONE!  I feel amazing.

One of the many Donation piles that went to Big Brothers Big Sisters RI

I know we still have a few closets to hit and the garage – but I know how to tackle these areas now, how to categorize and of course Label areas.  I think the best birthday gift I could have given David this ‘year of the Purge’…was a label maker!  (kind of a joint gift don’t ya think).  This little device is very motivating and has now become a symbol that will help us carry on the positive effects of the Conway visit.

Got Labels? Now even the kids know where things go.

David has cleaned out his workshop of the clutter, cleared out over 13 pairs of khaki pants and 30+ shirts, has made many trips to the dump and to Big Brothers Big Sisters Donation center and keeps the spirit of the purge in the forefront.

Oh Yes…we labeled this one right!!

I can tell by the look on his face just how happy he is which has also led to a closer personal relationship.  This result was not expected, but is very welcome by both of us!  We have gained back a form of communication that trailed off over the years because we were trying to be nice by not addressing a real source of stress:  The STUFF.  We have reconnected in ways that would take 5 other blogs to reveal – but just know clearing the house of clutter has opened a pathway that allows us to just be and connect.  We are looking toward continuing on this path of only bringing things into our lives that enhance our home, our lives, our humor and of course our relationship – between ourselves and others!  Our intention is clear, strong and BEAUTIFUL!

Thank you Erica for the wonderful blessing of your time and spirit!

 

Martha’s Vineyard PHOTO GALLERY

Here are the rest of the shots from our days on Martha’s Vineyard.

View of the Seal Island from Chappaquidick

Playing all day on State Beach

 

I am finally on island time. Our shoes are not lined up in age order.

Art Class on Patronus: by Reese

Time Out. Not so happy.

We have State Beach to ourselves. So cool.

I got to borrow Mary’s Trek Medone for a great ride to South Beach.

long stretches of quiet road. ocean breezes. cool September air. oh my.

Playing Outburst together. What a fun game!

running in the waves at South Beach

I love Porter jumping here.

another picture of the breach

Toto, we’re not in Maine anymore!

the kids in front of the breach

Spelling starts off with a joyful bang. LOL.

erosion on Chappy from the breach. There is a house 200 yards from here. Not good.

In the Jeep on the ferry to Chappy.

Chris and Bryson tacking the boat

my homegirl loves fudge as much as her mommy

Reese and Kate in the picture booth at Atria. Can you tell they are cut from the same sailcloth?

Bryson and Porter in the photo booth. What a great idea for a restaurant.

Maggie and Olivia from Anything Goes

Porter says he’s Olivia’s “human seatbelt” on the swing.

Listening to Porter read his first chapter book

Remember being so short that you had to stretch your neck and lips to sip from a straw?

Exploring the frog pond with Grandpa while waiting for our dinner at The Lure. What a beautiful place.

Reese and I all dolled up for dinner.

Chris at The Lure. I smell a new Facebook profile picture…

September 11th on Martha’s Vineyard. Hoping for a future where people find connections with one another, instead of focusing on what makes us different and apart.

Bidding farewell and safe sailing to Anything Goes until we meet again in Annapolis.

Be sure to check out our new movie from Martha’s Vineyard on YouTube.com on the conwaysailors channel:)  Fun stuff.  Thanks always for following along on our journey!