Passage/Caribbean Preparations by Chris

Passage/Caribbean Preparations

Written By Chris Conway

still working on my projects in the BVIs

I don’t think it is possible to ever get everything done on the to-do list for a passage.  In the time leading up to our departure, there were days where I ended the day with a longer list of things to do than I began the day with.  I was focusing on what I deemed a priority for our safe, fast passage in addition to prepping for time away from easy access to marine supply shops.  The list included a focus on servicing the engine, generator, rig, electrical systems, heads and upgrading the ground tackle.

 

For the generator, we were lucky enough to come across Karl, an experienced Fisher Panda mechanic in Annapolis.  He gave the generator a thorough inspection and performed some basic maintenance including an oil change and valve adjustment.  He also pointed out several installation issues such as the overflow freshwater cooling bottle mounted below the generator, rendering it useless.  Additionally I purchased the Fisher Panda spare parts kit and Karl took the time to show me some of the key parts and what parts you can work around or remove entirely and still get the generator to start.  It was well worth the few hours we spent with Karl to get at least some familiarity with the generator.

The engine has been running great (knock wood…) so I was just performing some basic maintenance and a general inspection.  I ended up changing out the oil, oil filter, fuel filter(s) and the transmission fluid.  Otherwise the engine looked like it was in good shape.  I also checked the sea water impeller which looked perfect so I left it in place.  A future project will be to upgrade the pulley systems to a serpentine belt to better handle the high output Balmar alternator.

In Annapolis we scheduled a visit from a rigging company to hopefully address the issue of the inner forestay halyard parting.  In addition to the inner forestay work, we also had some halyard work done.  We upgraded the main halyard to one of the new low stretch spectra or vectran or whatever they call the expensive ones these days and added a port spinnaker halyard so we would have two wing halyards in case one was parted.  The rigging work took longer than expected, but we hoped our halyard issues would be resolved.

pulling the nav station apart to do electrical work

We also scheduled a visit from a marine electrician to check out our batteries.  I had thought that one of the batteries may have been damaged early in our trip when a fuse went bad effectively removing two of the three batteries from the house bank.  That meant that we ran on one house battery for about a week until I finally tracked down the issue.  During that time we were deeply discharging the one battery since we thought we were on a 600 amp hour system instead of a 200 amp hour system.  We were also concerned with the rapid disappearance of the zincs on the prop.  The electrician tested all the batteries and also performed some tests on the electrolysis and everything tested out perfectly.  It was worth the visit to get rid of the anxiety.  Sometimes the internet can be detrimental as everything you read about AGM batteries says that if you look at it wrong it is ruined.

Sealing the deck where the new forestay enters to prevent leaking during the passage.

The heads continue to be an issue since everyone but me insists on using the bathrooms on the boat.  On the list was to change out all the hoses as they were original and had some odor issues developing.  I also had to do some work on the macerators to make sure we can empty the holding tanks when far enough offshore.  The electric pump for our head also needed to be rebuilt to replace all the gaskets and seals since it was beginning to leak.

While in Annapolis we enjoyed a nice stay at the Annapolis Landing Marina.  One of the perks of staying there was access to a courtesy car which meant I could spend more money at West Marine and Faucett’s.  I had been uneasy with our ground tackle situation for some time now as the boat originally had a Delta 55lb as the primary and a Fortress FX37 as the backup.  Before we left on our trip I had upgraded to 250 ft of 3/8 BBB chain for the Delta and moved the 25ft of chain that was on the Delta to the Fortress along with the 200 ft nylon rode.  I had wanted to add a third anchor since in a storm situation I would most likely have two deployed at once.  After exchanging emails with some of the other Beneteau 473 owners that I “met” through the Yahoo group, I decided on adding a 60lb Manson Supreme anchor.  One of the other owners had been able to get this anchor along with another in his bow rollers, which was my biggest concern.  I ended up cutting 70 feet off of the primary chain so I would have 180 ft of chain on the new primary anchor and 70 feet for the Delta which would serve as a backup secondary anchor.  Little did I know at the time that 10 days later I would be riding out a hurricane on the new Manson Supreme along with the Fortress with the Delta as a backup.

the water maker is delivered just in time

In addition to the above, I was working on at least the high level overview of some other projects to see what parts I might need to finish them up.  This included the installation of our new Wi-Fi antenna and router and the water maker.  For the water maker I was just trying to estimate what parts I may need for the plumbing and the installation of the major components.

Finally, I was working on what programs to use for email and weather data.  I settled on “mail a sail” which aside from an initial glitch in activation has been working well.  The GRIB files, which provide the surface winds and air pressure, are being retrieved through saildocs, which worked out great.  I was able to access the email through the Globalstar phone and pull the GRIB file into my OpenCPN plotter program to view the winds in my area as well as the forecast going 7 days out.

As I said in the beginning, there is no way to get to everything, but I completed the tasks needed to keep us safe on our passage.  The rest of the To-Do list will be waiting for me in the BVIs!

Boatschooling, Part I

Boatschooling: Day One, Still All Smiles….

Of the many responses we got about going on this voyage, one of the most common was from parents who claimed that they could never homeschool their children. Surprisingly, of all the things I prepared for in the past year, homeschooling was probably the least of my worries. I am a certified teacher, but I only taught for a short time before having children and staying home to raise them. However, I taught sixth grade, which can be one tough age. To top it off, I taught in a school district that had a good deal of cultural and economic hardships. I figured that teaching three well-behaved children, who were my own, would be a walk in the park. You’d think after being a mom for eleven years, I would know better…

Saying goodbye to Mrs. Walsh and Dr. Eckert

Our school at home, the Ho-Ho-Kus Public School, was incredibly supportive of our trip. A short note about homeschooling: the laws about homeschooling vary greatly from state to state. Being in New Jersey, I had to inform the school district of my intent to homeschool and ensure them that I would provide a comparable education compared to the public school. In other states, the laws are much more strict and can involve testing, sending in lesson plans, and more. Since we are returning to the school next year, we chose to follow our district’s curriculum, as opposed to purchasing one of the programs available online. This way, our children will have similar experiences to those of their classmates and will know what the teachers are referring to next year when they talk about something the rest of the students learned the year before.

Reese paints a postcard to send to her class

The Superintendent , Principal and the invaluable Mrs. Walsh, worked with me and agreed that the experiences of our children could enrich the education of the students at home as well. We brainstormed ideas and planned to Skype with the kids’ homerooms, send postcards from various ports back to the school, take pictures of our children in their school spirit shirts and post them on our website and the school website. Each of the children was assigned a teacher and I met with them extensively back in January. The teachers reviewed the curriculum with me and generously provided us with all the workbooks, textbooks, and other materials we would need. I just packed it all up in bins and threw it onboard in June, figuring I would sort it out once we got under way. (I was a little busy getting our house ready, working on the boat, and, oh yeah, caring for three children!)

Working on spelling

Once we got under way, I thought, “Maybe it’s not such a good idea to have the kids do NOTHING over the summer.” I knew they would give me a hard time if, all of a sudden, I started expecting them to do three hours of school a day after two months of a complete free-for-all. It’s hard enough to get kids back into the swing of things when you have a school, an experienced teacher, and a whole societal institution backing you up. So I decided to start math and reading over the summer. Nothing crazy. Just a few pages in their math workbooks for Units 1 and 2, which are review. I also had them read everyday and log their progress. Chris wanted to give them the summer off, but I promised that this little bit of work would pay off in September. Guess again, Mrs. Conway.

Porter takes a nap on Bryson’s lap after the stress of his Phonics book

September 1st came and went. We were having too much fun with the Armitages in Newport to start school. Then Labor Day weekend came and went and I knew the time had come. I made a big deal about telling the kids that all their friends were starting school that day, too. We went on Facebook at 8:45am and I showed them all the “First Day of School” photos that my mom friends had already posted. They looked at me like I was crazy. Insane. School? On a boat? They acted like they had no idea they would be doing schoolwork this year, even though we’ve been talking about it incessantly and it is a big topic of conversation every time we meet new people along the way. Even though half of Reese’s cabin is filled with school supplies.

DWT: Driving While Teaching. I should have been pulled over for trying to give two spelling tests while driving the boat through the Cap Cod Canal!

So I got out all the books, which had not moved from their bins, and we started up. After about 30 minutes, they were whining, complaining about stomachs hurting, staring at the blue water outside the portholes, and asking me how much longer I planned on torturing them. I stayed positive for about two days, but they are my kids before they are my students, and I can only take so much before I lose my patience. I found myself getting irritated and annoyed with them as their teacher. I thought about the great teachers they’ve had in Ho-Ho-Kus, who handle a whole class with such patience and grace. I berated myself every time I couldn’t get them motivated or interested and found myself saying ridiculous things, like “All your friends are in school for 7 ½ hours today. You should feel LUCKY!”. This works about as well as it worked when my parents told me about the starving kids in China in an effort to get me to eat liver. I thought they were insane to think that would work and I’m sure my kids are feeling the same. Chris was noticing how worked up I was getting and the mere mention of schoolwork was enough to put us all on edge. The situation was all the more difficult because I really did not expect it. Bryson and Reese are smart and work hard and even though Porter is new to school, I thought he would be fine as long as I worked with him one-on-one. I knew I had to do something, but as with much of parenting, by the time I figured it out, time had gone by and they were starting to realize that this school thing was non-negotiable. Phew.

Porter hard at work

Once we hit mid-October, we were over the hump. We were in a routine where we spend 5 days a week on schoolwork. The kids wake up before me (who doesn’t?) and start in on the work they can do independently, such as spelling and handwriting. Then they take a break to have breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth, and make beds. Once we are back at the dinette table, I assign Bryson and Reese their work for the day and they get started. I am there if they run into a problem and need some help. Then I sit with Porter and help him with his work. We got into a nice groove and I started to understand who needs more help in which subjects. I tried to organize my time so that I could work one-on-one with each of them for a little bit each day. Of course, Porter needs more of my time, Reese needs less, and Bryson is quite independent at this point. Most days, there is some point when all three are asking me questions at the same time, which gets a little overwhelming (It’s been awhile since I had a two-year-old, which is kind of what it’s like).

Chris taught a weather lesson when we installed our new barometer

After awhile, I realized that we were definitely making good progress. This helped me to relax a little. I know now that we will definitely get to everything we need to do for their grade levels and will have plenty of time left for exploring lots of fun, extra topics and projects. In fact, as of October 25th, Porter has completed half of his math curriculum for the year! Getting ahead will leave more time for moments like these: Porter, sleepy-eyed, and naked except for his pajama bottoms, gets all excited and calls me. “Mom!!! Doesn’t this Triscuit look like Minnesota?!!!”

The Minnesota Triscuit

See my next Boatschooling posts for details on our curriculum and our many field trips for on-location learning! (and more pictures, of course…)

Response to Organizational Therapy: Walking with Purpose!

OK, I know many of you are thinking – how could you let Erica Blog about your Mess!  Even down to the junk drawer that contained coupons, fish food and water bottles.  I know Erica wrote her blog and helped me from under my mess – out of love – for me and my family.  And for goodness sake, if you could have only seen the sheer JOY in her whole being while walking intently with purpose during the organizing …..you would have let her do it too!  How could I not give her that pleasure – and in turn the results of the exercise has given me great pleasure!    Heck, isn’t that what friends are for?

Friends Walking Intently with Purpose!

Now we are (or should I say “I” am) not a Hoarder, like you see on the cable networks, but it’s more like having a collection of clutter without signs of reversing.  Just keeping things for reasons – that after you discuss them OUT LOUD with someone – seem ridiculous!

“Everything that you will someday live, in terms of life experience — and by some day, we mean as soon as right now, tomorrow, the next day, or someday — anything that you will someday live, you have first imagined.  Because nothing will manifest in your experience without the imagination process happening first”.   — Abraham Hicks Publications

Erica’s ability to keep her heart open and create moments of true intent is amazing.  I have been meaning to do this type of Purge for over a year, and was aware it needed to be done for over 7 years.  What took so long, now that is a loaded question, you name it I had an excuse:

  • I had small children
  • my husband travels a lot during the year
  • I had no time to spare
  • I (over) volunteered at the kids schools and sports activities
  • I would rather workout
  • I was scared to face the crippling inability to get out from under
  • what if I needed something that I got rid of

Then here comes Erica and in a matter of a few days my house has unloaded about half its weight in stuff.  That is right just STUFF – stuff I did not need and do not miss.  Now in the 15 years we have been married my husband David (who came here from New Zealand) occasionally jests that – “All I came to this country with was a duffle bag and a bike and now look at all this STUFF”.  There is that word again, stuff.

Stuff is defined as [stuhf] noun: material of some unspecified kind.  Unspecified kind…that is exactly right.  Unspecified.  This word does not belong if you are to walk intently with purpose. ‘Unspecified’ does not work in Erica’s world of organization.  Everything has a specific purpose and a specific PLACE!  Which in my case – this stuff kept me walking around in circles for years because ‘stuff’ does not have a specific place to go!  Erica came to my rescue by teaching me about creating specific intentions and in the case of purging, cleaning and organizing – keeping only the things that bring joy and beauty to your life.  This lesson she has taught us in such a short time!  I am in awe and am extremely grateful!

The happy uncluttered couple!

THE THINGS I NOTICED DURING

During her unending commitment to get us out from under I noticed Erica’s amazing conviction and her ability to give her undivided attention to the task.   She was One on One with me with no other distraction (even though I may have been distracted).  This is how Erica gave of herself to me especially during the clothes portion of the house purge.  I ask, when was the last time you had someone sit with you for over 4 hours, giving you their undivided attention; no music, no television, no games, just the two of you in a room breaking down barriers, making connections and living in your truth.

Erica gave Undivided Attention with a Smile!

She gave calm, considerate intentions to help me peel away layers formed by years of neglecting my own desires and self worth.   She helped rediscover the person I had within simply by asking me which clothes made me feel gorgeous!  I told her my closet would be empty!  But she urged me to only keep the clothes and ONLY shop for clothes that made me feel Fabulous and Gorgeous!   And to not keep any other kind in the house.  Now that this is the new mind set….I actually went clothes shopping for myself, by myself!  (if you knew me, you would know how much I hate shopping!  All my clothes are hand me downs from my sisters or gifts from people) But with this new mindset I actually enjoyed the experience and found a great outfit that made me feel young, happy and Fabulous!

The closet now with only Fabulous clothes in it!

I cannot explain the emotion evoked in those few hours spent one on one with Erica, let alone the days they have shared with us during the first portion of their year long journey.   Just having this opportunity to spend many moments with Chris and Erica in the first 2 months of their trip makes us one lucky couple… and making those moments count is priceless.  THANK YOU!

 RESULTS

Well, the FREEDOM from the mental burden of holding onto unused, retired, old, outdated things is remarkably amazing.  The burden has been lifted.  The reasons for holding onto to these things, GONE!  My brain has more room because I no longer have to think about this stuff.  I am not pressuring my consciousness about WHEN am I going to get rid of this stuff, it is already GONE!   I no longer:

  • waste time obsessing about the amount of stuff
  • waste time worrying about when to get rid of it
  • waste time planning where to put it
  • waste time figuring out a plan to get rid of it
  • waste time wondering when I am going to use this stuff again
  • waste time thinking how much better my house would be without the stuff

IT’s GONE!   DONE!  I feel amazing.

One of the many Donation piles that went to Big Brothers Big Sisters RI

I know we still have a few closets to hit and the garage – but I know how to tackle these areas now, how to categorize and of course Label areas.  I think the best birthday gift I could have given David this ‘year of the Purge’…was a label maker!  (kind of a joint gift don’t ya think).  This little device is very motivating and has now become a symbol that will help us carry on the positive effects of the Conway visit.

Got Labels? Now even the kids know where things go.

David has cleaned out his workshop of the clutter, cleared out over 13 pairs of khaki pants and 30+ shirts, has made many trips to the dump and to Big Brothers Big Sisters Donation center and keeps the spirit of the purge in the forefront.

Oh Yes…we labeled this one right!!

I can tell by the look on his face just how happy he is which has also led to a closer personal relationship.  This result was not expected, but is very welcome by both of us!  We have gained back a form of communication that trailed off over the years because we were trying to be nice by not addressing a real source of stress:  The STUFF.  We have reconnected in ways that would take 5 other blogs to reveal – but just know clearing the house of clutter has opened a pathway that allows us to just be and connect.  We are looking toward continuing on this path of only bringing things into our lives that enhance our home, our lives, our humor and of course our relationship – between ourselves and others!  Our intention is clear, strong and BEAUTIFUL!

Thank you Erica for the wonderful blessing of your time and spirit!