Happy Holidays from the conwaysailors

Whatever you can do,
Or think you can, begin it.
Boldness has power, and genius,
And magic in it.
– Goethe

To our amazing families and friends, and to all the people who are following our journey,

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy New Year from Chris, Erica, Bryson, Riesling, and Porter, the conwaysailors aboard s/v Patronus:

“Here’s to us that are here, to you that are there, and the rest of us everywhere.” -Rudyard Kipling

We are enjoying the lovely and beautiful island of St. Croix for Christmas.  Patronus is decked out in holiday regalia, the gingerbread houses are decorated, and the presents are ready to be exchanged.  We have been listening to our favorite holiday songs, such as the Charlie Brown Christmas album and John Denver and the Muppets Christmas, but we still have to have our daily dose of Bob Marley and Jimmy Buffet!

In our annual holiday card, I usually pore over the thousands of photos I take each year, trying to find a few to share with everyone.  This year, I think you have all seen quite enough of us, so I was thrilled when Reese drew this picture.  It is perfectly in keeping with our quest for an adventurous year, a simpler holiday season, and focusing on what is important: our family.

Finally, before we kick off our flip flops, reach for that present surrounded by conch shells, and crack open one of those coconuts, we offer one last quote from all of us to all of you.  As you strive to achieve your own definition of success, please know that you already make each of us “breathe easier” by your friendship, your kind words of encouragement, your love, and simply by your presence in our lives.

“To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty;

To find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;

To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Lokah Samastah Sukhinoh Bhavantu                                                                            May All Beings Everywhere, Be Peaceful, Happy and Free

 

Living the Life Aquatic, Part III

I’ve been looking around the boat lately and chuckling to myself about the little things that make living on a boat so different than living on land.  And since we are in our sixth month aboard, I am noticing the part of our life that have really changed.   Here is a fun little list as a small view into our world:

Things I Brought with us that We NEVER Use:

We are barefoot 90% of the time:)

Shoes other than flip flops: Chris and I put on our hiking shoes last week to head up the hill on Jost Van Dyke, and nearly ripped them off three steps after getting out of the dinghy.  We have been barefoot or in flip flops for so long that real shoes are almost out of the question.  I love it! (although those high-heeled red sandals I brought are soooo cute.  Maybe I’ll try wearing them soon…)

My curling iron:  Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!!  I haven’t blow dried my hair since my cousin’s wedding on Long Island, in September, and I certainly haven’t taken a curling iron to it.  I can’t believe I thought for a second that I would be using it.

any diehard blog fans remember when I struggled to whittle the shoe-packing down to this many?

Our blender: I had dreams of making Mud Slides in the evenings, but ice and electricity are hard to come by and ice cream is a no-go in our not-so-frozen freezer.

Craft supplies: I brought my knitting, my jewelry making supplies, my mandala coloring book, and more.  But running and maintaining a boat ON TOP of teaching and taking care of three children leaves “surprisingly” little time for hobbies.  I’m starting to accept that I’ll probably not get to any of these fun activities.  Instead, our free time is spent exploring, sailing, and being outdoors (and there ARE no rainy days here!).  The retired cruisers, however, seem to be perpetually having sundowners in their cockpit, after an afternoon nap, while trying to decide where to go have dinner.

Books: The kids are reading the dozens of books we brought for them, but as above, I have little to no down-time for reading.  I keep hoping, though, because I brought some good ones with me.

No Shirt, No Shoes, No Problem. This is about as dressed up as we get down here!

Makeup and Jewelry: I did wear my jewelry in the Northeast, when we were in places that were a little more “fancy”.  But down here, it’s too, too, too hot to wear anything more than is absolutely necessary.  And everyone else is in the same boat.  From time to time I will throw on earrings and a bracelet if it cools off after dark, but that’s about it.  I do manage to keep nailpolish on most of the time.  It helps stop my nails from breaking with all the hard work around the boat and from being wet from swimming all the time.

Olivia, from Anything Goes, reads to me while my nails dry.

 

 

 

 

 

Things that seem normal (or almost normal) now.

TMI Warning.  Those who are squeamish can skip ahead…

Taking freezing cold showers, outside, on our swim platform (although I sometimes take my freezing cold shower in our head).

Using (really using) public restrooms.

off to do laundry with Wendy. Don’t you feel bad for us?

Washing our clothes in Laundromats.  It isn’t that bad.  Just don’t drop anything on the floor and don’t make any other plans that day.

Not flushing toilet paper down the toilet.  You can get used to anything if it means the head won’t smell.

Anchoring:  No bigs.  Pick a spot, drop it.  Maybe reset it.  Go swim into the beach.

Doing dishes like someone has a gun to your head and will blow your brains out if you use more than 1 gallon of water.

Flipping switches and contemplating the current state of power in order to: flush; turn on the stove; find the depth of the water; keep our food cold; use the internet; turn on lights; charge our _____ (fill in anything here); wash our hands; or listen to music.

Pulling our dinghy up to the boat and throwing the outboard into neutral as I swing sideways alongside the swim platform, lines in hand, ready to kill the engine while I casually step off the dinghy and tie it up.  All with a drink in my hand.  Or two bags of laundry.  Or $900 worth of food (ie. 2 rolls of paper towels and a loaf of bread).

Things We Are Still Adjusting To:

Chris wants to know why I’m smiling after dropping loads of cash on gifts, food, and a new teapot and then carrying it a mile in 90 degree heat. Probably because it still beats holiday shopping at the Garden State Plaza.

Paying $900 for two rolls of paper towels and a loaf of bread.  If you can find a store.  Which is probably 2 miles away.

Paying $0.20 per gallon to fill our 220 gallon water tanks. If you can find a water dock.  That doesn’t have a mega-yacht taking up all the space, filling their tanks with 50,000 gallons of fuel.

Being hot and sweaty.  All day.  All night.  All the time. (the first person to complain about snow on Facebook this winter is going to get an earful from me!)

Moving twelve things to get to the cinnamon.

The smell of holding tanks.

No mail: we managed nicely in the states, always having a place to have mail sent to, but here in the Caribbean, packages could take up to two months to get to us. (but we don’t stay put for that long.)

Bugs: um, have I mentioned that critters really like biting me?

Things We Are Having Absolutely No Issues Adjusting To:

Being with our beautiful children all the time.  We truly get it that our time with these amazing little people is short-lived.  We are soaking them up, answering their 2,000 questions a day, teaching them what we know, and learning even more from them.  We are experiencing the world together and creating memories that will last all of us a lifetime.  It isn’t always “smooth sailing”, but we are present and doing our best, and always remembering that the most important thing is to just love them.

visitors come and go all day via dinghy

Meeting new people everywhere we go.  Tonight it took us 45 minutes to leave Saba Rock because we were chatting with a family we met yesterday, and then met a foursome from England, with whom we chatted about our trip and their charter vacation.

Sitting on the beach, watching the kids play in the water with new friends they have made, while drinking Painkillers.  All afternoon.

Bryson showing he can set up his own tank

Swimming, snorkeling, and diving everyday.  Right off our “back porch”.  A few days ago I swam along with a giant sea turtle while time stopped and I focused on swimming with the same grace and strength as him or her.  Two weeks ago, Bryson and I completed our SCUBA certification and got to swim for two days with giant tarpon, magnificent corals in every color, enormous Caribbean lobsters, blue tang, trumpetfish, angelfish, and so much more.  But the best part was watching Bryson’s face light up when we saw something new and exciting.  Yesterday, I snorkeled with Reese, who skin dives as naturally as a mermaid.  She sees everything under the sea and knows the names of dozens of fish already.  (I still miss my bike, though.  There’s just no pleasing some people.)

Sailing on aqua blue waters, in our moving home, in no rush at all, to get to the next perfect beach, which is only 3 miles away.

Friends with Painkillers.

Staying up late with our friends Wendy and Craig, playing cards, drinking wine, listening to music, letting our kids stay up way too late, trading stories, and arguing about which perfect beach to sail to tomorrow.

 

 

Seeing new places, meeting new people, and opening our minds and hearts to the juicy, hot, lyrical, spicy culture of the Caribbean…

Boatschooling, Part II

Patronus’ Classroom

The kids have been working hard and are doing great!  This post is dedicated to Mr. Whittier’s students, who are following our trip as part of their schoolwork, and to all our kid friends back in the states, like Luke, Nicholas M., Kelli, Christina, Chase, and more! We know you are all working hard as well! Those of you who didn’t like school should skip this one and go see our Gallery, which has fun pictures of Chris and I on boats as children.

As I mentioned in our last Boatschooling post, we are following the curriculum of our school at home in New Jersey.  I have a little bit of latitude to adjust the lessons as needed and, of course, add lessons that tie into our trip.  Here’s what the kids are doing:

Spelling: All three children are using the spelling curriculum used in the Ho-Ho-Kus school.  Each week, they get a list of words and we practice them all week.  When they are comfortable with their list, we take a post-test to check their learning.  I have fun trying to make up funny sentences with the words as I read them out loud.  The lists are based on the vowel operating in each word (ie. Short “u” sounds, “r” controlled vowels, etc).  Practice may include writing the words in alphabetical order (I’m trying to undo calling it “ABC Order”.  Who started that, anyway?), writing a dictated paragraph, or writing sentences.  They don’t practice dictation at their school, but I think it is a great idea.  Not only are they practicing their spelling and punctuation, they are also honing their listening skills.  Learning to write quickly and with precision will give them practice for taking notes in high school and college.  One fun way to practice spelling was when I had Porter write his words in the sand on the beach in Martha’s Vineyard.  He had a great time doing it and I loved seeing his cute little hands making the letters with a stick that he found.

 

It’s a little hard to concentrate on schoolwork when your classroom is sailing under a cool bridge.

Vocabulary (Bryson): I have a set of vocabulary workbooks that are a stretch for him.  They seem to be at an 8th grade level, but the exercises are varied and interesting.  I find that Bryson does better when he is challenged, so I think this will help fight off boredom.  Since I am there to help him, he is not getting frustrated.  He is even starting to use some of his new words in his writing and speaking.

 

Counting and Sorting Coins for Math

Math: We shoot for two pages in their Math workbooks each day.  Bryson is gifted in conceptual and factual math but the 5th grade curriculum gets more complicated and focuses on reading the directions, checking your work, and avoiding little mistakes.  These are all areas that he is working on.  I don’t have the answer key for the workbooks, so to check their work each day, I have to do all the problems myself.  Adding and multiplying 4 digit numbers, measuring angles, remembering what a scalene triangle is, and those “rule boxes” end up taking up a lot of my time.  Porter’s and Reese’s math is much easier to correct (I should hope so).  So far, Porter is doing well, but reading an analog clock is still confusing to him.  Reese does well in math, but it is a source of frustration for her, so I have been focusing on boosting her confidence with it.  A week hasn’t gone by when she hasn’t screamed, “I hate math!  This is so dumb.  I’m never going to get this!”  Sometimes Chris tries to jump in to give her a different approach (he WAS a math major in college, after all) but she gets just as frustrated with him.  Baby steps…

 

Visiting Paul Revere’s Home in Boston

Social Studies: Our general social studies curriculum for all three kids is comprised of visiting museums, seeing new places, meeting people, and learning about new cultures.  Some special topics we have explored so far are visiting the U.S. Naval Academy and the Portland Fish Exchange.

Bryson also has a textbook from school and will typically read a chapter and complete the corresponding pages in his workbook.  His textbook work will ensure that he covers the same topics that the rest of his peers will study, which is Ancient Civilizations.  I look forward to tying in to his textbook work when we visit ruins and historic sites along the way.

Reese’s curriculum covers the U.S. Constitution and Immigration.  We look forward to completing an extensive project on the latter, which will hopefully complement the project that the students at the HHK School will do.  I hope to be able to send Reese’s project in to her teacher so that it can be included in the presentation of Immigration Day at their school.  We will rely on Aunt Carolyn to teach Reese all about one of her favorite topics, the Constitution, via Skype!

 

Our Salt vs. Fresh water egg floating contest

Science: Our science curriculum is based on the topics that are covered in 1st, 4th, and 5th grades in New Jersey and include: buoyancy, microscopic structures, light and solar energy, animals, plants, weather, properties of matter, rocks and minerals, water, and wetlands.  But our everyday science curriculum is experiential.  Wherever we are, whatever we are doing, we point out science concepts, ask science questions, talk about how things work, look up new animals we see, visit museums, do experiments, and find experts to teach us something new.  Experiments and field trips so far include: making our own bubbles; floating an egg in salt vs. fresh water; learning to use our new barometer; getting trained by a mechanic to understand, maintain, and fix our generator; visiting the Block Island Power Company; going to the Long Island and National Aquariums; making a pulley; visiting a 400 year old rum distillery; and visiting the Annapolis Maritime Museum to learn about oystering in the Chesapeake Bay.  Recently, we were treated to spotting a Bald Eagle on the Intracoastal Waterway.  It was awe-inspiring to see one outside of a zoo, and there is nothing like it.

Reading:  Bryson and Reese are reading a variety of books from all different genres and are doing book reports on them.  In the beginning of the year, the reports have been fun and engaging, including a video biography of Blackbeard, a book report in the shape of a person, and a “charm bracelet” Character Sketch book report.  Later in the year, I will work with them to write more formal book reports in order to deepen their understanding of themes and inferring meaning.  I will also have them read books together with me so that we can have “book group” meetings.

I’m not sure which one of us is having more fun!

Porter likes reading the morning message and filling in the weather.

Porter is doing very well with his reading.  He fought against it through most of Kindergarten, but he turned a corner right before we left on our trip and now he is reading beginner chapter books.  He loves reading together with me on my bunk in my cabin.  We snuggle up together and take our time.  I love how he turns the page and really inspects the illustrations before he starts to read the words.  We are practicing different decoding skills, such as sounding out the words, breaking up big words into smaller parts, and using context clues to figure out what a difficult word might be (we use that one a lot because I like saying “context clues”.).

All three children have a reading log to keep track of the books they have read.  Bryson and Reese write a short summary of each book in their log.  Porter and I make a big deal about writing in his log after he finishes a book.  We write down the title but I also use that time to remind him how to find the name of the author, how many pages each book has, and other “parts of a book”.  We talk about whether or not he enjoyed the book and I “test” him by asking him questions to see if he understood what he read.

 

Reading about fun Science facts

Writing:  Well, I have it “Hard. Super Crazy Easy. Hard”.  Bryson is a man of few words when it comes to writing.  He is not into details, fluff, or descriptors.  “Answer the question as briefly as possible” is his motto.  Actually, a better motto is simply, “Brevity.  Good.”  I am trying to come up with topics that really engage and excite him as well as conjuring up writing assignments that are more interesting than just “Write three paragraphs about…”  So far I haven’t found the magic words to make him love writing, but I am working on it.  Part of the problem is that he doesn’t enjoy actually handwriting words on paper.  He finds it laborious, especially when I ask him to write in script.  I might have him do some writing projects directly on the computer.

Math on the Lido Deck

Reese is a different story.  She is a storyteller, an illustrator, and a designer.  She is constantly writing new stories, adding to old ones, writing letters to her friends, writing blogs about our trip, and drawing pictures to go with her writing.  I love to read her narrative writing and will have her practice additional types of writing throughout the year, including poetry, persuasive writing, and non-fiction.

Porter is also a reluctant writer, but in the past few weeks I have found ways to engage him.  We created a “writing book” and each day we find a new topic to write about.  One day we wrote all about “Mommy”.  One day we learned the Cub Scout Promise and wrote it in his book.  Another day, we cut out a giant heart and he wrote about things he loves inside.  I got a lot of ideas for writing from the amazing first grade teacher at our school, and I plan on using ALL of them.

 

Translating my Morse Code messages for a whole-boat scavenger hunt

Handwriting:  Porter and Reese both have handwriting workbooks that they use to practice every day.  Porter is, of course, still practicing manuscript letters and Reese is practicing script.  Her writing is so impeccable that from a distance, you cannot tell the difference between her handwriting and the samples in the book!  She, of course, will finish a page and look at it in disgust, exclaiming, “My descenders are not slanting the way I want them to!  This is IMPOSSIBLE!”  I wonder from whom she got that trait?

I have to watch Porter as he practices, and most nights I fall asleep still chanting, “straight across on the e, start your letters from the top, a g starts out as an a….”

 

The Morse Code messages lead them to Swedish Fish hidden under our conch shell!

Phonics:  Porter has a phonics workbook that is painful, boring, and slightly below his level.  We are steadily plowing through it, but I might look around to see if I can find an alternative.  It is definitely helping, but sitting with him as he completes the endless, repetitive pages is like watching paint dry.  I am practically asleep after the first two pages of “fill in the ending sound of the pictures you see below” or “circle the pictures that start with the sound of n”.

 

Our “Cracker Fat Chart”

Health:  Mrs. Buksar, their health teacher, supplied us with five units of study each.  The “Body Shop” pamphlets are self-contained and just have to be read, understood, and filled out.  The kids have each done two so far and topics include: the Digestive System; Bones and Muscles; and Feelings.  We extend the units by discussing them all together and doing experiments.  For the Digestive System, which explained “Types of Fat”, we pulled out all the cookies and crackers on the boat and checked the fat content as well as the type of fat.  Reese used her math skills to make a chart to display her findings.  We all agreed that Fig Newtons, while lowest in fat, are still the tastiest!

 

Porter loves playing our dice tally game on the bed, first thing in the morning

Spanish:  We have a laminated fold-out pamphlet with common Spanish terms on it, but that is the extent of our Spanish curriculum so far.  I am hoping that we will get some language immersion practice on some of the islands in the Caribbean.  If not, I will have to beef up this part of the curriculum later this year.  Apparently, my brain can only hold two languages in it.  When I learned Swedish in college, it pushed out the years of High School Spanish that was hidden in it.

 

Reese helps Porter with his schoolwork while visiting Grandpa and Mary in Martha’s Vineyard

Music:  We started recorder lessons this week here on Patronus.  I am SOOOO excited.  In case I haven’t already bragged about it six times to you before, I was in the All-County Recorder Ensemble on Long Island back in the 1980’s.  I am like the world’s biggest recorder geek.  Bryson has already had a year of recorder at school, so he and I will work with Porter and Reese, and before long, we will start our own band and do recorder recordings and sell CD’s to fuel our cruising kitty.  Or maybe we’ll just get the kids to read music, cover the holes completely, and not blow too hard through a wind instrument.  But I can dream, right?

 

The kids practice twisted high lunch on the beach…Beautiful!

Gym:  Funny.  The ocean is their swimming pool.  The kayak and stand up paddle board are their weight lifting machines.  And climbing all over the boat, inside and out, is their gymnastics routine.  Add to that miles of hiking each week, miles of walking to laundromats, museums, grocery stores, and up and down docks.  Then throw in five foot holes dug in the sand and swinging off the boom.  Then take away television, Wii, and a couch.  I think I can probably skip a formal physical education program…

 

 

Besides the fact that he is responsible for navigation, boat handling, and mechanics, here is the Top Reason why I am the teacher (and etiquette coach) and not Chris:)

One night we were talking about Kate Middleton:

Reese: “What’s a Duchess?”

Chris: “Someone from Dutchland.” (as he shovels meatballs and spaghetti in his mouth with both his fork and his knife.)

In our next post, we will each write a little bit about some of our fun field trips!  Learning while exploring the world around us is our favorite way to find out about new concepts and meet new people.